Healthy Boundaries for Fun, Flirty, Drama-Free Vibes: How to Date Hot Girls?

You're feeling extra confident about yourself as you prepare to go on a date with a hot girl. The two of you have some serious chemistry, so you go straight into flirt mode. She's really loving your style, and the date is going great; then, you say something a little more daring, and she suddenly feels awkward about the whole situation. Sounds familiar?

Hot girls love flirting as much as anyone else, but how does one draw the line between good and bad flirting? When your sexy talk goes a bit too far, you may end up scaring your crush away instead of seducing her. So, in this article, we will be analyzing some of the things you should—and shouldn't do—to flirt with hot girls while also respecting their boundaries.

1: Respect Her

Throughout history, slutty women have been repudiated, victimized, and even burned on the cross for being "witches". Fortunately, we have now learned to respect and appreciate women who are confident enough to be their own selves.

Sadly, some guys still view women who act slutty as not being somehow inferior; it's an unfortunate social leftover of the old misogynistic view of the "She was asking for it". Naturally, anyone who finds this disgusting idea even slightly appropriate is already overstepping boundaries—in a big, big way...

At a moment when the Internet is filled with websites for finding local sluts, it's about time we start showing them the respect they deserve. Deep down, all men want to find themselves a slutty hot girl; so, why should anyone view them as inferior?

2: Be Confident (But Not Too Confident)

Insecurity and flirting mix as well as oil and water, and that' why we all know that it takes confidence to successfully date hot girls. However, an excess of confidence can ruin your next date quicker than anything else.

When the Greek philosopher Aristotle talked about the "golden mean" (i.e., the idea that virtue sits in the middle of two vices), he wasn't thinking about dating. Yet, the golden-mean rule applies perfectly to modern-day romance.

If you go on a date with a hot girl and you're not sufficiently confident, you may end up being overmodest, underselling your qualities, and showcasing yourself in a negative, unattractive way. However, if you play it too confidently, you may end up sounding arrogant and scaring hot chicks away with your "I'm better than everyone else" attitude.

3: Consent is the Main Thing

The best way to know, for sure, that you're not overstepping a hot girl's boundaries? Asking for consent. When you're meeting someone for the first time, you shouldn't assume that certain behaviors entitle you to do certain things. Allow us to explain...

Some men wrongfully believe that, just because a girl is being nice to them during a date, they can feel free to touch them and speak to them in any way they like. This is fundamentally wrong, as you should always look for consent even if your hot date seems to be super into you. After all, she may be just trying to be friendly, or she may not be ready to get physical despite being attracted to you.

So, no matter how good your date turns out to be, please keep in mind that consent cannot simply be taken for granted—it should be as explicit as possible, even if based on non-verbal cues. If this sounds exaggerated to you, that's probably because you're a man who's not as aware of the risks of modern dating as any woman is.

4: Love is a Spectrum...

If you're looking for drama-free dates, you should take into account that dirty talk comes in many levels. When the conversation between you and your date starts getting steamy, you shouldn't dial back, but you also shouldn't push too far.

Imagine that you and your hot crush are getting along well and that she's already talking about how bad she wants to kiss you. This is a good occasion to say something positive and sexy about her, but probably not the best time to bring up your weird fetish, as you may end up grossing her out!

Admittedly, it's hard to define how far one can push when it comes to dirty talk, especially if your hot date starts getting frisky herself. However, it's really just a case of using common sense and reading the room.